Sometimes the unexpected happens, and it’s always unexpected! Sometimes it’s something as small and petty as running out of gas or losing your car keys, thus making you late for an appointment. Other times it’s mind blowing; like your former ex-girlfriend traveling 235 miles (four hours) just to tell you she loves you!
This is exactly what happened to me recently. It was unexpected because I had spent that last four months moving on and focusing on a move to Colorado as I posted here. We had previously dated for 4-5 months two years ago, but broke up after she moved to Austin. I had never truly gotten over her. After a recent attempt to reconnect back in October I decided it was time to cut off communication the following January. It was a very difficult decision, as I cared a lot for this girl. But wanting to be able to move on and love again I decided it was best. I didn’t know it at the time, but she took the cutting of ties fairly hard, but at the time it still didn’t change how she felt about me.
During the time we didn’t communicate I began to “get over her” and eventually got to a point where I could see myself dating somebody else seriously. I had also begun to feel like I was called to Colorado as well as to make a huge career change. In hind-sight I feel like these things were a divine distraction as I had never totally forgot about her. At times I would ponder ways that God could potentially put us back together, such as her getting transferred out to Colorado at the same time I moved, but none of that was even possible considering the organization she works for, and their location.
Four months after I had cut off communication is when I had the surprise of my life. I was at home on a Friday night packing boxes and getting ready for my move to Colorado, even though I didn’t yet know when it would be. At one point I had picked up my cell phone and saw that I had a call from her. I was pleasantly surprised, but at the same time wondered why in the world she was calling after I had cut things off. The ironic thing is I hadn’t even deleted her from my phone (even though I almost did at one point), so I knew it was her.
Her voicemail stated that she was going to be in town for business the next day and wanted to see if it was okay for us to meet and talk. I figured that she had just heard I was moving to Colorado and wanted to talk to me one last time before I moved. For a moment I thought maybe she was going to tell me she wanted to get back together, but I immediately dismissed it, not wanting to dwell on it and get my hopes up.
The next morning we meet up and ate breakfast at our favorite breakfast place Old West Café. It was here she sprung on me a somewhat long story about the changes she was going through in her life and how she had been given a change of heart. It was even unexpected for her. It sort of come out of nowhere, but we both believe it was God given. She proceeded to tell me that she loved me. I also found out at this point she had made the four hour drive just to tell me she loved me. THAT was her “business”.
Being bewildered and guarded I didn’t say much. Out of nowhere the girl I had loved for so long shows up out of the blue and blew my mind; and in my mind, at the time, wasting away my plans to move to Colorado. But, I pretty much instantly knew I was no longer going to Colorado and I would be staying behind in Texas. Even though I had said I would never again, not move because of a girl, this was different though – it was love!
So over the next few days I thought and prayed a lot about it. I didn’t want to make a rash decision and wanted counsel from friends and family. I didn’t want to admit at first that I was going to abandon my plans to move to Colorado, but a friend pointed out that it sounded like I already knew in my heart what I wanted to do. He was right! So, the following Wednesday we talked for about an hour on the phone and decided to pursue a relationship again, but were going to take it easy at first. She also came back into Denton that next week and by the end of the weekend I was positive I wanted to be with her again. The only thing that was holding me back was fear of future rejection and leaving behind what I thought I was supposed to do. But I had to let go of that fear and step forward in faith, and so far it has been amazing.
One thing this has already reminded me of is that we often have our own plans and ideas, but that is not always the best. There is an often a better path for us to take even though they may not seem like it at first and other times the better path is obvious. When doors just open and things fall into place, you just know. But in both situations the end of the road makes you a better person and brings you joy, even if it’s through trial.
So, all this to say; my plans to move to Colorado are temporarily on hold. For now I have decided to move to Austin, Texas to be with the girl I love. I’m excited about moving forward, not just because of Kristy, but because of Austin. Although it has always been my second choice I still see a lot of great opportunities here and there is quality rock climbing close by in addition to great hills for running and biking. The future looks bright and lots of change surely lies ahead. And as a side note if you need a freelance web designer or photographer in Austin let me know. I’m available for work!